Anniversary & Trigger Days Toolkit

A 2-minute planner for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays that hit hard. A few quick choices turn into a short, personal plan for getting through the day.

Anniversary & Trigger Days Toolkit
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Anniversary & Trigger Days Toolkit

Certain days hit harder than others — birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. Take two minutes now to build a simple plan, so you're not figuring it out in the moment.

WHAT KIND OF DAY IS THIS?
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Step 1 of 3

How do you want to acknowledge the day?

Step 2 of 3

Do you want company, or space?

Step 3 of 3

What's one small kindness you can plan for yourself?

Your plan

Your plan for this day

    This isn't saved anywhere. You may want to write it down, screenshot it, or add it to your calendar for the day.
    A FEW MORE GO-TO STRATEGIES
    • Tell at least one person the date is coming, so you don't have to explain it in the moment.
    • Give yourself permission to change plans last-minute.
    • Decide in advance what you'll say if someone asks how you're doing.
    • It's okay if this day looks different than it did in previous years.